Well, well, well. Dating someone is always so exciting, I mean you feel all the butterflies in your stomach, the world is revolving around all the joys of your new-found love. Well, guess what the majority of the time you're actually dating that person representative. WAIT WHAT!!! Yes, I said it, and their representative is whom you are seeing from them and you are presenting your representative with them. What I mean by that is both you and them have put on your best face, best attitude, all you finances are in perfect order, your credit is A-1, your world is great, you have no stresses and the man/woman in the mirror is not usually who your seeing from them and who they are seeing from you. At some point, that representative goes away and the true person steps up to the plate. That plate may not be too nice either, but don't get me wrong the plate may be really nice. They may have fired their representative long ago and they are whom you see. Great job in deciding whom to commit too. 
Being in a relationship should not be the only reason you are happy in life, yes, it can make it better, but you should be happy within yourself before you enter into a relationship. This is for the ladies--- Do not pursue the man--- the word of God says "he that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and obtains favor with the Lord" Proverbs 18:22. Ladies, if you chase after him, you can tend to come off as needy or desperate. Trust me you don't want that at all. A man is the one who should be seeking the woman. Now ladies, of course, you can flirt, let him know that you are interested, especially if he is a little on the shyer side, but please don't chase or pursue him. Many men have expressed that they know what they want from a woman when they are just getting to know them. Please stop opening your legs to every man you meet, thinking he is the one. Tell a man you are celibate and really stand firm with him on that; no touching feeling in the intimate areas either and see if he really stays around for longer than 3 months, still showing you the same amount of attention that makes you want to keep moving forward. Men, stop playing games; if you are not ready to really commit to one person, be honest with her. Let her make the determination if that is okay with her and the level of commitment. She will respect you more in the long run.
When you first begin to date someone; set up the expectations, and no I am not referring to the first, second, or even the third date. Once you both decide to be exclusive with one another; and I hope that you are exclusive; you have to talk about your life goals, families, sex, marriage, expectations as to what you will and won't tolerate in the relationship. You have to know what you want from a potential husband/wife. Of course, if you haven't dated that much, then you may not know what you are looking for and what can make you happy long term. So then ask yourself a question, who is your dating mentor; who do you look too and say "When I have a husband/wife I would want a relationship like?" That will at least give you an idea of what you feel may have you smelling the roses for a longer amount of time. Be with someone who doesn't date for sport.
When you are dating someone and they think you have it all together or at least the majority of the way together, but you can't even afford to buy a pack of ramen noodles, but they think you can afford a filet mignon; then you probably haven't fired that representative yet; let me tell you, you better do it quickly, because that is very unfair to the person you are dating especially if they are showing you who they really are, and vise Versa.
Everyone has a certain amount of baggage, never assume the person is baggage free. Whether they are holding on to the baggage or dropping it off is another story. And I don't care what anyone says; every person I know that has dated and/or married someone, in some way has had involvement with the families. So yes to some degree you do date or marry a part of their family /friends, and they do the same with you.
There is so much I can say on this topic, but listed below are just some of the topics we can discuss during the coaching sessions. If you don't see the topic listed you are interested in discussing; it's okay, just reach out to us and we will be happy to connect with you.
  • How to love yourself.
  • Sex.
  • Betrayal / Disappointments.
  • Expectations / Roles.
  • Moving in together.
  • Finances / Shared accounts.
  • Representative.
  • Religion.
  • Your baggage / their baggage.
  • Long Distance.
  • Growth personally.
  • Have you changed into someone you don't like anymore?
  • Feeling stuck?
  • Connecting with your partner/spouse.
  • Maturity.
  • Families and how they play a factor in who you are with.
  • Discipline.
  • The "Shut up" ring
  • Dating someone with kids.